I have a tendency to make fun of what others are wearing. Not that I think I'm some sort of fashion icon, I just sometimes wonder what made a person go into their closet that morning and choose the random/crazy/ill-fitting garments that they are wearing. I have also been known to take pictures on my camera phone of said outfits. I generally try to be discreet about it and think I do an OK job of doing so.
Last week my Mom was telling me a story about how she had gone to Target and noticed two teenage girls doing that exact thing to her- taking her photo on their camera phones and laughing about it. Now my Mom probably does look a little strange to some people, but with good reason. She was diagnosed with breast cancer last fall and because of the chemotherapy she has very little hair, it's just starting to grow back. To someone who didn't know any better, they might just think she has a really short haircut. She also has a flat chest at the moment because she had a double mastectomy in April.
Needless to say, it really hurt her feelings. I got really angry about it. I told my Mom she should have stopped and taken a picture of the girls on her phone, too. Or even better yet approach them and call them out on it. Then I started thinking about how I do the same thing. In my mind I try to justify what I do because I'm not making fun of someone who has a medical condition, just who has poor judgment in dressing themselves, but is it really all that different? Maybe I'm being just as hurtful as those girls were to my Mom. Maybe I'm just a big a-hole.
So the moral of the story is, I haven't since taken anyone's photo with my phone in order to make fun of them. I might not ever again.
what douches!
ReplyDeleteKeep taking pictures Jana. It's who you are. Or shall I say "WE are"? :)
ReplyDeleteJack and I have this conversation all of the time because he tries to call me out for making fun of people (even though he does it too.)
There is an obvious difference though between making fun of people who have no choice and those who do. If someone chooses to wear an outfit that someone else thinks is dumb, that's their own fault. A person doesn't choose a medical condition/deformity, a mental handicap or their skin color (to name a few). I know you Jana, and I know that you do NOT make fun of these people. Just the people who choose to look stupid. (So, keep on snapping pics! AND don't forget to send them to me!) :)
P.S. You are not an a-hole and those girls are bitches.